Get to know someone over a meal

Get to know someone over a meal posted by DoubleDare - on Jul. 27, 2009 at 1:08 PM In an article in the NY Times publishing executive Carol Smith says she always shares a meal at a restaurant with a prospective employee in order to get to know her or him better. Here is the quote. "You learn so much in a meal. It’s like a little microcosm of life. How they order, what they order. How are they going to give instructions to a waiter? Are they sending back the meal eight times? Can they keep the conversation going, especially if you’re hiring someone who is in sales? Are they asking smart questions? Throughout a meal, the personality comes out, I think. Are you going to connect with us? Are you going to be part of the team, or are you going to be one of these independent players who wants to take all the credit? Are you good with assistants? Those are things you can find out in some subtle ways when you eat with someone." http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/26/business/26corner.html What have you learned by sharing a meal with someone?

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• TaeK3944 replied on Aug. 27, 2009 at 3:45 PM Why not. Most dates are over dinner, and we do the same analysis of the person at the other end of the table. It makes perfect sense to me.

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• cookrman replied on Aug. 30, 2009 at 8:42 PM I see how that tact would work very well, but it depends on what type of job for which one is interviewing, I suppose. I do learn loads about people by breaking bread with them. However, I am not sure where Smith is coming from with the "what they order" learning...

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• SB1480621 replied on Oct. 28, 2009 at 7:50 PM ... and if they grew up poor and have no experience dining in a full-service restaurant, so they're uncomfortable and nervous... they won't get hired. I think that unless the job involves dining with clients, so eating in restaurants is part of the job, the hiring decision should be based on qualifications, not how they handle themselves in a situation which is unconnected to employment. (and before you think this is a personal issue, I grew up in Scarsdale and was graduated from an Ivy League university...)

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• Kirk - replied on Oct. 29, 2009 at 10:33 AM SB1480621 wrote: ... and if they grew up poor and have no experience dining in a full-service restaurant, so they're uncomfortable and nervous... they won't get hired. SB, Growing up poor and lacking experience dining in a restaurant, does not mean a person will not be hired. Even applicants that have not had a challenged background are uncomfortable and nervous during the interview process. Qualifications are a dime-a-dozen. Interpersonal and communication skills are not - and such skills are important in the work setting. I doubt many employers would knowingly hire a rude or condescending person.

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